Depending on the version of the
bible you read FATHER is mentioned about 950+ times. Have you ever wondered why
it is used so many times? What is truly in the name FATHER? As we all
celebrated Father’s Day last Sunday I thought it fitting to write on that very
subject. You see, I was the bad example and not deserving of the wife I have
until I learned five core responsibilities that I will blog about. You have to
open your mind to the truth and be willing to obey. The Father’s role is not an
easy one by any means. So here we go…the five responsibilities.
First, he is a leader. Nowhere is it
plainer than in the qualifications to be an overseer. 1 Timothy 1:2-5; Now the overseer is to be above
reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate,
self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not
given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of
money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him,
and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know
how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?). Unfortunately, in today’s world, the father thinks he is
the leader of the house, and mom may even let him believe it. In reality, she
manages nearly everything! Father’s don’t even know what’s going on and sadly
some don’t even care or even enjoy the arrangement. Let me wipe my hands of my
responsibilities so I can enjoy ESPN, etc they say. The wife decides what the
kids will and will not do. She is the disciplinarian. She checks all the
homework, does the teacher conferences etc. Where is the Father? Is he the
yelling figure in the background? Nice presence to have huh? Fathers leading means providing for the family
with food, clothing, shelter, medical care, instruction, discussions about the
bible, worship and encouraging church involvement. I am in no way saying a
Father should lead as a dictator, iron hand, making every decision and doing
everything himself. He recognizes his wife’s abilities and encourages her to
develop them and use them.
Second, he is a Spiritual leader. Far
too often Father’s just don’t care about the spiritual things or are too scared
to start and the mother takes the lead, leaving the kids with the impression
that involvement in church is for the woman to do. Drop the PRIDE, stand up and become the
spiritual leader of your home. Father’s should be in PRAYER over all their decisions.
Third, he is a good lover. He must
love his wife with an unselfish, forgiving love, a love that transcends all
love except for God himself. That means that after God your wife comes first in
your life--before you, before your boss, before your friends, before your brother’s
in Christ, even before your children. And those very children will be the
beneficiaries of your faithfulness. Your love for their mom, openly expressed,
will give them a sense of satisfaction and security that nothing else in this
world can provide. So, Father’s, take your wife out for dinner periodically.
Bring her something that says “I love you.” Spend time talking about the things
that are burdening her. Be sensitive to her needs and live to meet those needs.
If she’s had a frustrating day, cheerfully encourage her. Don’t mock her or
argue in your kid’s presence.
Fourth, he is a disciplinarian. Fathers
who rule by force and fear will produce angry rebellious or worse a child that
feels unworthy and completely rejected. Good discipline begins with
self-discipline, not with a loud mouth or a lot of muscle. Offering spirit-directed
discipline is the way.
Fifth, he is a companion. I am not
saying a PAL. Fathers have made fools of themselves palling around with their
kids and trying to do everything they do, often to the embarrassment of the
younger children. By companion I mean comrade, confidant, and friend.
A boy particularly needs to know his
Father. His Father represents the man he will become--the husband he will be to
his wife, the father he will be to his children, the provider he will be for
his family, the leader he will be in his church. He needs an example to follow,
a model to identify with, and a Father he can be proud of. Sons will repeat patterns
set by their Fathers. That’s a scary thought, isn’t it?
Daughters too need to know their Fathers.
A girl learns from her Father what men are like. He represents the husband she
will one day marry, the Father of her children. So, become the kind of husband
you want your daughter to marry. If Fathers deprive their daughter’s companionship,
the resentment she feels will be transferred to other men.
Lastly, let me name off a few of the
greatest Father’s in the bible (My opinion of course):
Noah
Abraham
Abraham
Isaac
Jacob
Saul
David
Job
Did I get your curiosity up…do some
simple research on each of these Fathers, yes you will find faults but in
history they are the biggest names of our time.
So Father’s I hope you enjoyed your
day! Remember what a FATHER truly is.
The choice is yours!
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